How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins

Mel Robbins on Getting What You Want

Mel Robbins has been helping people get what they want for the past seventeen years.
She hosts a syndicated radio show where she talks to men and women across America who feel stuck.
One-third of Americans feel dissatisfied with their lives right now.
Mel Robbins hosts a show called "In-laws" where she helps families at war with their in-laws.
She wants to share everything she knows in less than eighteen minutes about how to get what you want.
Mel Robbins encourages the audience to think about what they want and be selfish about it.
She emphasizes the importance of picking something instead of overanalyzing it.
Getting what you want is simple but not easy.
We live in an amazing moment in time where information and resources are readily available to help achieve what we want.
Mel Robbins encourages people to learn from others who are already doing what they want to do.

The word "fine" is often used as a default response, but it doesn't accurately express how we truly feel.
Saying we are "fine" allows us to avoid taking action and addressing areas of our lives that need improvement.
It is important to be honest with ourselves and others about our true emotions and experiences.
By acknowledging and expressing our true feelings, we can create positive change in our lives.
Each person's existence is a unique and extraordinary event, with the odds of being born being incredibly slim.
Embracing our uniqueness and recognizing our worth can help us realize that we are not just "fine," but fantastic.
We have life-changing ideas for a reason and should not diminish ourselves by settling for a mediocre existence.

We often hit the snooze button on our ideas and fail to take action.
Making the first decision of the day to get out of bed sets the tone for taking action in other areas of our lives.
Activation energy refers to the force required to change our behavior and overcome resistance.
We will never feel like taking action, so waiting for motivation is futile.
Taking small steps, like waking up earlier, helps us confront the physical force needed for change.
Being an adult means parenting ourselves and doing the things we don't feel like doing.
We need to push ourselves out of our comfort zones and take responsibility for our actions.
Waiting to "feel like it" will only hold us back from reaching our potential.

Feeling like your life is broken is a signal that your need for exploration is not being met.
Your soul needs growth and exploration, similar to how your body grows and regenerates.
Being uncomfortable and getting outside your comfort zone is the only way to achieve growth.
Being stuck in your head is not productive and can prevent you from achieving what you want.
Your feelings can hinder your progress, so it's important to focus on what you want rather than how you feel.
Getting out of your comfort zone is about pushing yourself, not necessarily taking risks.
The first few seconds of pushing yourself to do something new may be challenging, but it gets better once you're in motion.
The magic and opportunities in life exist outside of your comfort zone.
The five-second rule can help you take action on your impulses and prevent you from killing ideas.

The speaker encourages the audience to make requests and experiment.
The speaker emphasizes that everything they do is for the audience's benefit.
The audience is urged to take action and make requests in order to achieve their desires.
The speaker offers their willingness to help the audience achieve what they want.
The audience is urged to take initiative and make their requests known.